| [ loveNfriendship ] in KIDS 글 쓴 이(By): 구르미 (구르미) 날 짜 (Date): 2005년 1월 23일 일요일 오전 04시 06분 58초 제 목(Title): The Language of Letting Go "The Language of Letting Go" written by Melody Beattie. 한국어 번역판으로는 "그냥놓아버려라" 멜로디비아띠 / 우석출판사 --- 서문. 개인과 가족 그리고 사회의 고통과 공황으로부터 치유와 회복을 위해 보답이 되길 바랍니다. -- INTRODUCTION This is a book of meditations. It is designed to help you spend a few moments each day remembering what you know. I have touched on principles from Codependent No More and Beyond Codependency. I've also included some new thoughts and ideas. It is a book to help you feel good and assist you in the process of self-care and recovery. Thanks for the support, encouragement, and success you've given me. I hope I have given you a gift in return too. Melody --- 이 책은 알콜 중독에서 벗어나려는 사람들을 위한 것만이 아닌 불행한 과거( 실연, 이혼, 아동학대, 약물중독 등등)으로부터 스스로 벗어나고 치유를 하는 과정을 함께하기 위한 조언을 365일 매일 일기체의 형식으로 설득력있게 제시하고 있다. codependent -> independent + interdependent ---- Jan 1 The New Year January 1. Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that your are interested in fully living your life in the year to come. Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction. What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to accomplish? What good would you attract into your life? What areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What character defects, would you like to have removed? What would like to attain? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life? We aren't controlling others with our goals - we are trying to give directions to OUR life. What problems would you like to solve? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to have happen in your career? What would you like to see happen inside and around you? Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write all down - as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go. Certainly, things happen that are out of our control. Sometimes, these events are pleasant surprise; sometimes, they are of another nature. But they are all part of the chapter that will be this year in our life and will lead us forward in the story. The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals. -- Today, I will remember that there is a powerful force motivated by writing down goals. I will do that now, for the year to come, and regularly as needed. I will do it not to control but to do my part in living in my life. -- Jan 2 Healthy Boundary Boundaries are vital to recovery. Having and setting healthy limits is connected to all phases of recovery; growing in self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to really love and value ourselves. Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing that our own. We'll set a limit when we're ready, and not a moment before. So will others. There's something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we're controlling others, but because we've changed. -- Today, I will trust that I will learn, grow, and set the limits I need in my life at my own pace. This timing need only be right for me. -- |