| [ sExLife ] in KIDS 글 쓴 이(By): decal (람 세 스) 날 짜 (Date): 1997년08월30일(토) 12시20분48초 ROK 제 목(Title): 콘돔 대신 쓸수 있는 것.. by Judy Kuriansky I have to apologize to guys who complain that wearing a condom is like having sex in a raincoat or taking a bath with socks on. You're not alone: Three out of four men in one study agreed about such reduced sensation. Some even blame the sheath for erection problems. Many health professionals and sex therapists have been trying to convince you otherwise, but simple logic says that any barrier to skin-to-skin contact can cut down on enjoyment. Forgive us. We've only been trying to protect you, given the risks of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. How else could we convince you to wear one? Would you respond to an appeal to your better judgment--that you have to be responsible about sex these days--not just to protect her against you, but you against her? Will horror stories frighten you into covering up? I hear too many men and women rationalize that it can't happen to them (it can) or that one time doesn't count (it does). One young girl who recounted on my radio show how she had had unprotected sex with a needle-using drug addict once and then tested positive for H.I.V. recited poignantly: "A tisket, a tasket, a condom or a casket." Another apology is due men: It's not all guys' fault. The recent Durex Global Survey of Sex showed 50 percent of women who use condoms carry them. But even so, women, like guys, come up with lots of excuses for not using them. Georgette lets Liam slip inside her anyway because "I want the real him in me, to feel closer." Jeannie wants Brian to ejaculate inside her because unconsciously she wants to get pregnant. And for Kristen, going ahead without a condom is a sign of trust: "Making him wear it is like saying he's unclean." Recognize these emotional needs--and use one anyway. If you, the man, refuse to cover up, here are some options: "outercourse" (simulated intercourse without penetration), frottage (rubbing against each other), kissing, mutual masturbation, inserting a dildo in lieu of the penis. You can't get away with unprotected oral sex--recent studies on monkeys have shown that oral contact can transmit H.I.V. Another option: Get tested for H.I.V., and then commit to monogamy so you can go unprotected (that is, as long as you use some other form of birth control). If you're willing to cover up and want to maximize sensitivity, choose a condom carefully. Check Consumer Reports ratings, since product claims can be confusing, manufacturers disagree on how snugly a condom should fit, and thinner is not always better. Beware: Lambskin may enhance sensitivity, but it allows small, dangerous viruses to sneak through. Polyurethane, on the other hand, used in the female condom and male Avanti condoms, is strong, impenetrable, and heat-conductive, making some users feel warm and cozy. Compensate for any loss of physical sensation with a heightened sensitivity in your mind--master control for pleasure anyway. Convince yourself of benefits besides safety, like fewer wet spots, proof that he came. Annette hangs used condoms on her door, like notches on a belt. Jenny oohs and aahs over the tangible evidence of Carl's big loads. Moral of the story: When handed lemons, make lemonade. 용산서 | | 우리집 | |선린상고 --------------| |---------------| |--------------------------------- <------ 용산구청, 원효대교 | | --------> 숙대, 서부역 ===========================남영역| |================================= |