| [ sExLife ] in KIDS 글 쓴 이(By): decal (람 세 스) 날 짜 (Date): 1997년08월30일(토) 12시15분02초 ROK 제 목(Title): Annal Sex "Come on, man," his buddy said. "That's an exit, not an entrance." "No, man," Dennis replied, "you don't know what you're missing. It's an act of love." by Judy Kuriansky That's how Theresa wanted to see it: as an act of love. Desperate to please her boyfriend, she asked me for help, since she feared it would be painful. It can be quite painful. The muscles at the anal opening are strong, and can slam shut when you're uptight (hence the term "tight-ass"). The man mustn't shove. Let her get in a position where she's in control and has room to move, like on her knees or leaning over the bed, not him lying on top pinning her down. Trust is critical: Assure her (and mean it) that she calls the shots about the depth, angle, and rhythm of penetration; stop if she says to. Lube up (with Astro Glide or K-Y Jelly, not creams that dry up). Most important, she has to relax and think beautiful, willing, happy thoughts: "I want this. This feels great." Train for no pain by inserting smaller, thinner things first--a finger or anal dildo (never dangerous objects like wood or glass). Inevitably there are worries. Angela called my radio show, LovePhones, saying, "I want to let my husband do doggie in my rear but I'm afraid I'll shit on him, or that his penis would come out with doody on it or push it up inside and constipate me." To ease fears and increase the confidence necessary for pleasure, empty your bowels before sex, if necessary taking an enema a few hours before. Or have him wear a condom. Farting is normal, but instead of ignoring it (as many couples do), apologize. Other rules: Go gently. Delicate linings of the anal canal can be torn, giving rise to infection from bacteria residing there. Remember, it's not safe sex, so wear a condom, or be sure you're both monogamous and tested for S.T.D.'s. Never use the same finger in both holes, or go from anus to vagina without washing first. What's a guy to do if he's dying to fill the third input, but she won't hear of it? Never force any kind of sex if your partner isn't into it. Jerry thinks the dirtier the better, but Susie thinks it's disgusting and is emphatic that "that place just wasn't made for sex." Loving sex respects the other person's limits, without demanding a particular act for selfish pleasure. Jerry can compromise: He can assume the doggie position, but insert into the vagina, imagining being in the other hole. But if she's convincible, seduce it as you would her mouth or vagina: Tell her you love her, go slow. Admire her behind, especially if she feels it's big, fat, or unsightly. Do this outside of sex, when out to dinner or walking down the street. Warm up with a little anal foreplay: Rub her rear (this can be comforting as well as exciting), and then try rimming (anolictus and anilingus: tonguing the opening or slight insertion) before penile penetration. Point out assets of the act itself (free access to her clitoris, breasts, or other parts). Rebut negative attitudes (it's disgusting, dirty, bad) with positive ones (it's loving and normal). Don't use it as a power play, or a way to avoid intimacy. Some guys like back-door action on themselves too. (Of course it could be acting out a homosexual fantasy, but not necessarily.) There are sensitive nerve endings at the entrance, and tugging at the muscles and reaching inside triggers his hot spots. Jane was having phone sex with Jake, and told him how she'd like to hike his butt in the air and lick his butthole while rubbing his cock and playing with his balls. Then she'd switch, putting her finger up his anus while sucking his cock. The next weekend he was on a plane to visit her. So, Anal Juice Lovers, Anal Passageway Navigators, Funky Butt-Friends, or Rectum Rangers, take heed: If you want to come a knockin' on the backdoor, be respectful and loving, and enter gingerly, and you're more apt to find a welcome mat. 용산서 | | 우리집 | |선린상고 --------------| |---------------| |--------------------------------- <------ 용산구청, 원효대교 | | --------> 숙대, 서부역 ===========================남영역| |================================= |