| [ loveNfriendship ] in KIDS 글 쓴 이(By): 구르미 (구르미) 날 짜 (Date): 2005년 2월 3일 목요일 오후 04시 02분 25초 제 목(Title): Jan 19. Owning Our Power Jan 19. Owning Our Power In recovery, we need to pay attention to feeling victimized. We don't need to become comfortable with that feeling. How do we feel when we've been victimized? Helpless. Rageful. Powerless. Frustrated. Feeling victimized is dangerous. It can lead to addictive or compulsive behaviors. In recovery, we're learning to identify when we're feeling victimized, WHEN WE ARE ACTUALLY BEING VICTIMIZED, and WHY we're feeling victimized. We're learning to own our power, to take care of ourselves, and to remove ourselves as victims. Sometimes, owning our power means we realize we are victimizing ourselves - and others are not doing anything to hurt us. We may feel victimized if we get stuck in a codependent belief, such as, OTHER PEOPLE MAKE ME FEEL.... OTHERS HOLD THE KEY TO MY HAPPINESS AND DESTINY... I CAN'T BE HAPPY UNLESS ANOTHER BEHAVES LIKE... Other times, owning our power means realizing that we are being victimized by another's behavior. In that case, we figure our how to set boundaries to stop the victimization. Sometimes, a change of attitude is all that's required. We ARE NOT VICTIMS. We strive to have compassion for the person who victimized us, but that compassion often comes later, after we've removed ourselves as victims in body, mind, and spirit. Too much compassion may set up a situation where the person can victimize us again. We try to figure out what we may be doing that is causing us to feel victimized, or what part we are playing in the system, and we stop doing that too. We are powerless over others and their behaviors, but we can own our power to remove ourselves as victims. --- Today, I will take responsibility for myself and show it to others by not allowing myself to be victimized. I cannot control outcomes, but I can control my attitude toward being victimized. I am not a victim; I do not deserve to be victimized. ---- |